Work documents
This page contains documents that are important for our work together. I might ask you to read and/or print out one or another document prior to our meeting.
Documents on this page:
Documents on this page:
- Client intake form
- Types of losses
- Working with photographs
- Integrative Therapies for Transformation
- Degriefing premises
Client Intake form
Please download the intake form using one of the links below. You can download either of the files below, print them and fill them out by hand and send them to me. You find the mailing address on the contact page. If you own Microsoft word, you can download the word file, fill it out on your computer and send it to me by email or send it to me using the contact form.
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Types of losses
This document lists the different types of losses that can happen to us.
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Working with Photographs
Degriefing®
Applied: The Use of Photographs
One of the basic intentions of Degriefing is to locate where the grief is being held in the bodymind system and how it is effecting us. We are then at choice as to how we use it as fuel for transformation.
When we can identify this emotional resource as fuel we can then use it to power our choice of transformative activity.
As human beings we attach and assess meanings to our relationships and environment. When we experience a loss we find that outside stimuli, whether a sight a sound a taste a smell or a touch can in fact bring the feelings of loss to the surface.
Pictures of lost loved ones re-stimulate feelings of the relationship we had with this person, place, animal or object.
When we look at a picture of a lost loved one, and talk about them, we can once again, get in touch with the truth of how we are feeling, and where in our bodies we are feeling those emotions. When viewing the picture we can ask the client where they feel the upsurge of emotion. We can then, with the input of the client, design a personal program ie. recomend integrative therapies that fit with the nature, lifestyle and habits of the client to empower them to use the grief as fuel to power the activity.
Tremendous insight is gained when we observe ourselves compassionately while doing this; to recognize where in the body the impact is felt thus locate the holding of somatic grief.
If we have the presence to nostril breathe while viewing the photo, we can observe our thoughts, sensations and memories that are connected to that lost person or pet, to that time in our lives that we were with them feeling the resonance in our physical body as somatic memory.
The mind often chooses to forget things that the body can remember for a long time.
Using photographs can teach us how to how care for our body by identifying and locating where and how we carry our somatic grief. We can then focus, feel and power our chosen activity using the grief as fuel for transformation and healing.
One of the basic intentions of Degriefing is to locate where the grief is being held in the bodymind system and how it is effecting us. We are then at choice as to how we use it as fuel for transformation.
When we can identify this emotional resource as fuel we can then use it to power our choice of transformative activity.
As human beings we attach and assess meanings to our relationships and environment. When we experience a loss we find that outside stimuli, whether a sight a sound a taste a smell or a touch can in fact bring the feelings of loss to the surface.
Pictures of lost loved ones re-stimulate feelings of the relationship we had with this person, place, animal or object.
When we look at a picture of a lost loved one, and talk about them, we can once again, get in touch with the truth of how we are feeling, and where in our bodies we are feeling those emotions. When viewing the picture we can ask the client where they feel the upsurge of emotion. We can then, with the input of the client, design a personal program ie. recomend integrative therapies that fit with the nature, lifestyle and habits of the client to empower them to use the grief as fuel to power the activity.
Tremendous insight is gained when we observe ourselves compassionately while doing this; to recognize where in the body the impact is felt thus locate the holding of somatic grief.
If we have the presence to nostril breathe while viewing the photo, we can observe our thoughts, sensations and memories that are connected to that lost person or pet, to that time in our lives that we were with them feeling the resonance in our physical body as somatic memory.
The mind often chooses to forget things that the body can remember for a long time.
Using photographs can teach us how to how care for our body by identifying and locating where and how we carry our somatic grief. We can then focus, feel and power our chosen activity using the grief as fuel for transformation and healing.
Integrative Therapies for Transformation
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Degriefing premises
- Grief is the most available, untapped, emotional resource for personal transformation.
- Degriefing promotes integration: the wisdom of the body with intelligence of the mind.
- Grief is not as complicated as we make it, and not as simple as we would like it.
- Grief is cumulative: fresh loss restimulates the grief of unresolved losses.
- Degriefing practices ‘intention’ rather than ‘trying to accomplish’.
- We don’t get over our losses: we change relationship to them.
- We all have feelings; we experience them as emotions.
- Degriefing encourages observation rather than worry.
- Tears lubricate the muscles that hold grief so tightly.
- Degriefing focus’s on allowing rather than forcing.
- Grief is the bodyminds response to loss…any loss.
- Emotion is the affective aspect of consciousness.
- Grief, like traffic, is part of the human condition.
- The mind has a body and the body has a mind.
- Above all, grieving people need to be heard.
- In times of grief—our mind is not our friend.
- The body is the barometer of our truth.
- Grief is as universal as the smile.